dear expectant mother

Dear Expectant Mom,

I know this is probably one of the hardest decisions anyone can make, and I honor your courage and strength in considering it. It’s not a decision you’ll make lightly…and I am so humbled and grateful you’re doing so. Choosing me would give me the chance to be a forever parent and for your child to have all the opportunities and love I can give them.

Please know that if you choose me, your baby would grow up surrounded by community and support; he or she would know of you as their birthmom. Adoption means so much to me; my sister was adopted, and that was a huge joy in my life. At the same time, I recognize it was a life-changing event for her birth family (and for her). As a family, we acknowledged the complexities of a multiracial family. We made sure she maintained roots in terms of her language, culture, adult role models, and friends. This approach would be the same for any child I am blessed to love, raise, and support as part of how to best prepare them for the world we actually live in. It would also honor your brave gift and resolution.

Adoption is a beautiful process and one that doesn’t come without complexities and heartbreak. I am profoundly grateful for the opportunity you are considering me for, the strength you have shown, and the love you demonstrate for your baby through this decision. Thank you.